This is what I have been questioning for a long time. I know that it's giving in to a stereotype by saying that all Gay men are promiscuous. I also know that there are loyal, faithful Gays just like there are slutty straight guys and girls. But it seems as though Gays are a lot more open to the possibility of having relationships that don't follow the norm. Some have open relationships, and it's quite funny to hear that even those that have open relationships have certain "rules" about how open their relationship should be.
A friend of mine that is in an "O.R" told me that they fool around with other guys independently and if they find a guy that they both fancy they will have a 3-some with that guy. If they do fool around on their own they don't necessarily have to tell each other as long as they are safe both of them don't wanna hear about it. According to my friend, this works for them. But does it really work?
What makes a committed relationship? Is it sleeping with the same person for the time you are together? Is it promising to be there for each other through the good times and the bad? Can we make up our own rules in our relationship and have them actually work for us or should we follow the patterns of typical, traditional relationships?
It's quite foolish in a way to try and follow the same relationship patterns of a straight couple. I don't buy into that whole thing of one guy has got to be the "woman" in the relationship (Submissive, quiet and a homemaker) while the other is the male. (Dominant, take charge, etc..) When I see a Gay couple I sometimes cringe to see that there is one "fem" Gay and one "butch" Gay. That concept to me is just so out dated and plays into the stereotypical vision that straight people have of us Gays.
When it comes to relationships I think it's best to follow your own set of rules and what works for you, works. And if it doesn't make changes so that it will work. It's ridiculous and pointless to try and mold your relationship to other couples or even past relationships of your own. It's quite an exciting and liberating thing to make the rules up and live how you and your partner want.
New relationship, new rules. Amen!