I would like to believe that there are people that you get along with more than others and they might make great friends and maybe great lovers. I have met plenty of guys that have ticked a lot of the boxes but for some reason or another it just didn't work out, that leads me to believe that maybe I didn't tick any of their boxes.

So what are you supposed to do until you find someone that you don't want to slap or roll your eyes at every they open their mouth? Well, it's no big secret: DATE! Yes, this is what you have to do. Date your ass off! Now, I can hear most of you saying: What BIG fucking news! But I can tell you why it is so important for us Gays to date. I have a little theory.

When we were growing up most of us didn't have to opportunity to openly date other guys, bring them home to meet the parents, go to prom with them and do all the things that you are supposed to do in that "dating stage" of life, so we miss ou

t on all of it and then we expect to find a relationship?  NO.

So, we have a lot of catching up to do. I mean even when you're in college some of us are still having trouble coming to terms with our sexuality and we go through that "BISEXUAL" phase which basically means "full fledged fag" and then when we finish college most are none the wiser in terms of sexuality.

So when we get out into the big, bad world we have to take matters into our own hands and do A LOT of catching up on our dating for all the years we didn't go out to dinner or to a movie with a guy that you might have more in common with than the fact that both of you like cock. This is something that most of us fail to understand when we are young. So we end up with the wrong kinda guys because we think: "well, he's the only openly Gay guy I know at the moment so let's give it a go." NO. 

Play the field, put yourself out there and be ready for a lotta heartbreak, tears, confusion, happiness, pleasure, emotional highs (& lows) and little by little you'll be able to see who YOU really are and what YOU really want out of a relationship or if you even want a relationship!

There is something I must not be getting. Why do most Gay men fanatsize about "turning" a str8 guy, Gay? What is the point to all of this? I mean, most Gay guys you talk to will tell you that they have "turned' someone Gay, even if it was for a night.

I find this hard to understand due to the fact that if you are Gay you are Gay. There was a time when you could say you're Bisexual but I think that's just one bus stop away from cum drinking central. The thing that really gets me, is the fact that these Gay men tell you these stories with pride, as if it's something to be proud of! I mean would you actually be proud of forcing someone to do something they normally wouldn't do? (because let's face it, in more instances than not, alcohol is involved and we ALL know alcohol is the DEVIL.)

Even worse some Gay men only go for str8 guys!! WTF is that all about? Then they wonder why, they basically have no love life and are always going from drama to drama. This to me sounds like a oneway ticket to sad & with living cats-ville.

Lines are always blurred when it comes to sexuality, but should they be? I mean if you can "turn" someone gay then the entire "born that way" idea goes flying out the window. This would give all those bible thumpping idiots something to rejoice about! In this day and age, I think it's time to define and basically cut the crap. Some people call it old fashioned and say that to label is to define. But I think that it's sometimes necessary to define someone, not for yourself but for other smaller minded people that don't understand what you are all about.

If you want to be "undefineable" then you will always have people questioning you and that can get pretty tiring. I mean would you always want to go into that every time you meet someone new? Why do some Gay men like to complicate their lives so much? I guess some of us, really are all about the DRAMA!

I have had my share of sexual escapades. Some of them have been orgasmic and some of them have left me wondering: What the fuck was that? Having one night stands can be exciting, kinky and erotic or they can be awkward, messy and downright sticky. But what about when you have a partner and you  have been dating him for a week , a month, a year or even 10 years! How the fuck do you keep sex interesting, or even more important how do you KEEP IT HOT?

I have always thought that the idea of having sex with just ONE guy is kinda scary, I mean the idea of just one cock for the rest of my life was just....... HOW? There are so many hot cocks out there and I'm just gonna have to stick to one?

Well the answer to this is: YES, BUT ONLY if you keep sex hot in your relationship at ALL TIMES. And when I say at ALL TIMES, I mean it!

One of the things that I have found to be very important, is to talk about sex. I talk about sex with my partner all the time. I tell him what I love, like and hate. I also encourage him to do the same with me. I have always said that I am an open book when it comes to sex and there ain't no shame in my game. The trick is..... you gotta pick your moments. You can't tell your partner you don't want your nipples pinched when he's doing it. That just KILLS it. So talk before you have relations. Believe me, it will help you loads! (Pun intended!)

Another way of keeping things sizzlin' is, telling each other your fantasies. Cheap sex talk is not something you have to pay for. Why pay for it when you talk nasty to your partner for free! If you have the fantasy of candle wax on the nipple, or chains, whips, dips and chips, then let him know! Just don't keep shit to yourself! You may have fantasies that could turn him on and you may have some that will make his cock rocket your backdoor off!

Enjoy variety. Don't just do it in the bedroom! Nobody wants to fuck Grandpa! Dogging anyone? How about sex in the shower? Up against the wall? Over the kitchen table? Or even on the floor going at it like sex crazed rabbits! The most important thing here is: do it in a place where something is fresh and new.

Finally, make sex an event. MAKE it special. Don't just look at him and say "c'mon let's just get this over with!" Plan a night together, go out and buy sex toys,have a look at porn together, the build up will have you wanting to shoot your hot steamy load all over your partner. This is key here: build up to sex. This will drive both of you crazy!

So, if you have had a long time partner and sex is a bit..... "meh" then you betta live by these tips or else you'll be polishing yourself off for a long time! Let me know how you get on!