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50% of Gay and Bisexual Men Think About Someone Else During Sex

Sex, a shag, banging, doing it, getting intimate or making love…whatever you want to call it, when you are alone with a partner, there really should be only one person on your mind. But, according to a recent study by ManCentral.com, half of us admit to thinking about someone else during those intimate moments.

Over 3,000 members of the free gay dating website were asked if they ever thought about someone else during a sexual encounter, surprisingly, the results indicated an astonishing 50/50 split. Of those that admitted to a wandering mind, 25% thought about a neighbour, friend or aquaintance, 12% thought of a secret “fuck-buddy”, 8% imagined a celebrity whilst 5% conjured up the image of their favourite porn star.

The study also found that gay men are less likely to mind-cheat than bisexual and curious men. Whilst 45% of gay men said they had thought of someone other than their partner during sex, 59% of bisexual men and 61% of bi-curious men admitted to having an active imagination. Though the statistics indicate that bisexual and bi-curious men are more likely to have wandering minds, it may also suggest that they are fantasizing about men when they are alone with a woman.

Similarly, openly gay or bisexual were the least likely (46%) to use their imagination during those special moments with their partner, compared to 59% of closet men.

A spokesman for ManCentral said; “Whether inside or outside of a relationship, the vast majority of people will hold a sexual fantasy to some degree. In the case of this study, the thought of a celebrity or porn star is a fantasy which will ultimately remain just that, thus the excitement or thrill is gained from an unobtainable lust which is essentially harmless to any relationship.”

“Though a neighbour, friend or colleague may present a more probable threat to a relationship than a celebrity or porn star, the pleasure of the fantasy is once again achieved through the sense of forbidden or unachievable indulgence.”

Fortunately, “Say my name” is up there with “Was it good for you?” in the cringe-worthy sex sayings league, but if your thoughts do turn to someone other than your partner, just make sure you say the right name.

Brains vs. Beauty, Which Wins?

When it comes to the dating game there is always a battle between brains and beauty, but 67% of gay men would choose a partner with personality over appearance and intelligence.

Wash-board abs, perfect smile, hair meticulously styled, impeccable sense of style, and not a stray hair in sight – but gay and bisexual men have learnt never to judge a book by it’s cover. Though the average gay man is often thought to be as deep as a puddle results from a new survey reveal that for the majority of gay and bisexual men personality is paramount when dating.

Free gay dating and chat website ManCentral.com asked its members what was most important to them when looking for a date or relationship. 67% of those survey ed said that personality was the most important attribute in a potential partner.

In contrast, only 28% relied solely on appearance, whilst intelligence would impress only 6% of those surveyed.

However, personal preferences were significantly affected by age. Those aged 18-24 were the most likely to value appearance above intelligence and personality. 34% of 18 to 24 year olds said appearance was the most important factor, far higher than the 28% average. The importance of appearance steadily declined until it reached just 11% for those aged 61 and above.

Similarly, those aged 61 and above were most likely to rate personality as the most important factor in a new partner. 77% of those aged 61 and above said that personality was the most important attribute, 10% higher than the average. This gradually declined to 61% of those aged 18-24.

Predictably, those looking for sex were the most likely to place emphasis on appearance, whilst those looking for friendship were most likely to look for a partner with personality. Strangely, intelligence was also most highly regarded by those looking for sex – presumably Darwin’s Theory of Evolution is some form of foreplay.

So if you’re struggling to find a date for Valentine’s Day, chances are you are as dull as dishwater.

Additional information:
Man Central surveys are extremely detailed, incorporating information about its respondents as detailed as facial hair and weight, allowing us to unearth the following strange facts:

• Closet men (34%) were more likely than out (24%) men to choose appearance over intelligence and personality.

• Gay men (69%) were more likely than Bi-curious men (57%) to choose personality over looks.

• Men with small tools were the most likely choose intelligence and personality rather than appearance.

• Men lacking in the looks department should venture into Bristol where only 12% of respondents thought appearance was most important. Whilst Harrow is a haven for those who fall short in the personality stakes where only a quarter of men would choose personality over all else.

Research:
ManCentral.com polled 2,879 members over a three day period. Detailed statistics & breakdowns available on request. Members who answered the surveys remained anonymous to ensure an honest and accurate response.

The Condom, The Click and the Wardrobe

63% of Closet Men Browse The Web For Sex 

New research from ManCentral.com reveals gay men log on to get off.

Roll back the clock 5 years or so to when Hampstead Heath was a hotspot for illicit encounters with Joe Blogs or George Michael. Nowadays, gay men are more likely to cruise the web than browse the bushes in search of sex.

Members of the free gay cruising website ManCentral.com were asked ‘What is your main reason for using online dating?’ A staggering, 45% of respondents admitted to using the internet for sex. Similarly, only 21% claimed to be in search of a relationship, and even less (8%) were looking for dates.

Unsurprisingly, 63% of men who were not ‘out’ used the internet for sex, in contrast, only 35% of openly gay men were looking for sex. Similarly, bisexual men were the most likely (61%) to look for sex online. Arguably, the internet provides closet cases with the anonymity and convenience to satisfy their desire without the risk of being outed…or arrested.

But are men ditching the bars and clubs for the comfort of their sofa? Apparently not, 52% of regular drinkers, and 45% of social drinkers browse dating websites for sex.

Worryingly, 40% of men who admit to never practising safe sex use dating websites to find a sex. Similarly, 55% of those who ‘sometimes’ practice safe sex log on for sex. Nevertheless, 41% of those who always practice safe sex also join online dating websites for such encounters.

You’d be forgiven for thinking the research shows that single gay men just want sex; but you’d also be wrong. In fact, 70% of married men and 62% of those in a relationship look for sex online compared to only 40% of those who are single, the remaining 60% are online for dating, friendship or a relationship.

Additional information:

• Men who are between 5’3 and 5’6 are least likely to search for sex online.

• Men under 5’3 and over 6’ are most likely to be looking for a relationship - the practical implications of this 7 inch difference are baffling, yet humorous.
• Men who describe themselves as ‘large’ in the trouser department are the most likely (61%) to use websites for sex. In contrast, men who describe themselves as ‘small’ are the most likely to seek a long-term partner.
• Coventry and Middlesbrough are the best places to find a relationship. Whilst members on the south coast, particularly Portsmouth and Brighton, are most likely to search for sex.

Matthew Hodson, Head of Programmes at GMFA, the gay men’s health charity, provided us with his comments:

"The internet is now the most popular place for gay men to find sexual partners. It’s also where a lot of men go to find information on health issues, such as HIV and other STIs. Therefore, it’s important we provide accessible and accurate information online to ensure that men have the information they need to protect themselves and their partners. This is particularly the case for those who don’t identify as gay, as they often have greater information needs and are less likely to access information in gay venues or the gay press."

For more information on sexual health and safer sex, visit GMFA’s website at www.gmfa.org.uk/sex

ManCentral.com polled 3,236 members over a 24 hour period. Detailed statistics & breakdowns available on request. Members who answered the surveys remained anonymous to ensure an honest and accurate response.

Who Will Be Filling Your Partner's Stockings This Christmas?

As the work Christmas party looms should you worry about your partner's fidelity

A series of studies carried out by the free dating website Smooch.com and free gay cruising website Mancentral.com highlights that when it comes to trusting cheats, some gender divisions will never change.

With the festive season rapidly approaching, our minds are flooded with endless questions and dilemmas, “What shall I buy Mum this year?”, “Will I get socks again?”, “Ball-balls or Tinsel” and so on. But whilst you browse the department stores in search of the perfect gift, humming along to the Mariah Carey classic All I Want For Christmas Is You, consider whether your partner is singing from the same hymn sheet.

Members of the free dating website Smooch.com were asked: Once a cheat, always a cheat? A staggering 64% of women surveyed 'definitely' agreed with the statement compared with only 45% of men.

Interestingly, the results showed that men were more likely to forgive and forget with 36% of men believing that people make mistakes, whilst less than a quarter of women were inclined to accept the notion of human error.

However ladies, before you return your partner to the manufacturer for repair, it appears that this attitude is fitted as standard on the male species regardless of age or sexuality. Results from Man Central paralleled that of Smooch as 40% of gay men 'definitely' believed once a cheat, always a cheat.

But what can you really take away from this research? Well, for the ladies, if you do fall foul of the Babycham this Christmas over a third of men will forgive you. As for the men...nearly two thirds of women won't just be roasting chestnuts by an open fire this holiday season.

Additional breakdowns revealed:

• People with a PhD (67%) are almost twice as likely to respond 'Definitely' than those with a Masters Degree (34%).

• Unsurprisingly, divorcees (59%) are less forgiving than those who are married (29%).

• People in a relationship (19%) are nearly 4 times as likely to choose 'It's only cheating if you get caught' than Single respondents (5%).

• The starsign Cancer is least forgiving with 64% choosing 'Definitely' whilst the most forgiving starsign is Gemini with 34% choosing 'People make mistakes'.