Say My Name, B!@tch
50% of Gay and Bisexual Men Think About Someone Else During Sex
Sex, a shag, banging, doing it, getting intimate or making love…whatever you want to call it, when you are alone with a partner, there really should be only one person on your mind. But, according to a recent study by ManCentral.com, half of us admit to thinking about someone else during those intimate moments.
Over 3,000 members of the free gay dating website were asked if they ever thought about someone else during a sexual encounter, surprisingly, the results indicated an astonishing 50/50 split. Of those that admitted to a wandering mind, 25% thought about a neighbour, friend or aquaintance, 12% thought of a secret “fuck-buddy”, 8% imagined a celebrity whilst 5% conjured up the image of their favourite porn star.
The study also found that gay men are less likely to mind-cheat than bisexual and curious men. Whilst 45% of gay men said they had thought of someone other than their partner during sex, 59% of bisexual men and 61% of bi-curious men admitted to having an active imagination. Though the statistics indicate that bisexual and bi-curious men are more likely to have wandering minds, it may also suggest that they are fantasizing about men when they are alone with a woman.
Similarly, openly gay or bisexual were the least likely (46%) to use their imagination during those special moments with their partner, compared to 59% of closet men.
A spokesman for ManCentral said; “Whether inside or outside of a relationship, the vast majority of people will hold a sexual fantasy to some degree. In the case of this study, the thought of a celebrity or porn star is a fantasy which will ultimately remain just that, thus the excitement or thrill is gained from an unobtainable lust which is essentially harmless to any relationship.”
“Though a neighbour, friend or colleague may present a more probable threat to a relationship than a celebrity or porn star, the pleasure of the fantasy is once again achieved through the sense of forbidden or unachievable indulgence.”
Fortunately, “Say my name” is up there with “Was it good for you?” in the cringe-worthy sex sayings league, but if your thoughts do turn to someone other than your partner, just make sure you say the right name.
Kiss Me Quick
61% Of Gay And Bisexual Men Are Uncomfortable Kissing In Public
More than forty years have passed since the decriminalization of homosexuality in the UK, however a survey by the free gay dating website ManCentral.com reveals that 61% of gay and bisexual men feel unable to kiss in public.
Whilst there are unwritten rules within society that govern when and where anyone should engage in an intimate moment with their partner, the research shows that gay and bisexual men are ten times more likely to feel oppressed than their heterosexual counterparts.
According to ManCentral a staggering 61% of the gay and bisexual men surveyed felt uncomfortable displaying affection in public fearing retribution from wider society. In stark contrast, an identical survey on a heterosexual dating site showed that just 6% of straight daters would think twice before displaying their affection in public.
The survey also highlighted that 23% of gay and bisexual men were uncomfortable displaying their affection to another male anywhere in public, whilst 38% admitted they felt confined to displaying affection solely within ‘gay-friendly’ areas.
Intriguingly, of those surveyed, 18-24 year olds were the most uncomfortable (28%) with displaying affection in public whilst a lesser 19% of men aged 61 and above felt the same. It is worth noting that the men now aged over 60 would have been in their late teens and early twenties when homosexuality was considered illegal in the UK, yet the statistics indicate that they feel less repressed than those aged 18-24 in today’s society. Clearly, though homosexual acts have been legal within the UK for over forty years, there remains a sense that homosexual displays of affection are at worst, unacceptable or at best, somewhat taboo.
Unfortunately, many of the men who took part in the research expressed their fear of what other people would think, say or do if they were to behave affectionately towards another man in public. One member revealed, “The one time I displayed affection with another man [in public] we had water thrown over us.” Sadly, another member explained that he would not display affection in public because he “[doesn’t] want to make other people uncomfortable.”
The survey also found the following interesting facts:
- 1 in 10 openly gay men felt uncomfortable displaying affection anywhere in public including ‘gay-friendly’ areas.
- A quarter of gay and bisexual Londoners avoid public displays of affection completely compared to just 16% of those surveyed in Brighton and 22% of those who live in Manchester.
- Surprisingly, 1 in 10 closeted men were comfortable displaying affection with another man anywhere in public.
The unfortunate reality is that many gay and bisexual men feel unable to display affection in public, not as a result of their own insecurity, but on the attitudes of those around them
Research:
ManCentral.com polled 3,200 members over a three day period. Detailed statistics & breakdowns available on request. Members who answered the surveys remained anonymous to ensure an honest and accurate response.
Brains vs. Beauty, Which Wins?
When it comes to the dating game there is always a battle between brains and beauty, but 67% of gay men would choose a partner with personality over appearance and intelligence.
Wash-board abs, perfect smile, hair meticulously styled, impeccable sense of style, and not a stray hair in sight – but gay and bisexual men have learnt never to judge a book by it’s cover. Though the average gay man is often thought to be as deep as a puddle results from a new survey reveal that for the majority of gay and bisexual men personality is paramount when dating.
Free gay dating and chat website ManCentral.com asked its members what was most important to them when looking for a date or relationship. 67% of those survey
ed said that personality was the most important attribute in a potential partner.
In contrast, only 28% relied solely on appearance, whilst intelligence would impress only 6% of those surveyed.
However, personal preferences were significantly affected by age. Those aged 18-24 were the most likely to value appearance above intelligence and personality. 34% of 18 to 24 year olds said appearance was the most important factor, far higher than the 28% average. The importance of appearance steadily declined until it reached just 11% for those aged 61 and above.
Similarly, those aged 61 and above were most likely to rate personality as the most important factor in a new partner. 77% of those aged 61 and above said that personality was the most important attribute, 10% higher than the average. This gradually declined to 61% of those aged 18-24.
Predictably, those looking for sex were the most likely to place emphasis on appearance, whilst those looking for friendship were most likely to look for a partner with personality. Strangely, intelligence was also most highly regarded by those looking for sex – presumably Darwin’s Theory of Evolution is some form of foreplay.
So if you’re struggling to find a date for Valentine’s Day, chances are you are as dull as dishwater.
Additional information:
Man Central surveys are extremely detailed, incorporating information about its respondents as detailed as facial hair and weight, allowing us to unearth the following strange facts:
- Closet men (34%) were more likely than out (24%) men to choose appearance over intelligence and personality.
- Gay men (69%) were more likely than Bi-curious men (57%) to choose personality over looks.
- Men with small tools were the most likely choose intelligence and personality rather than appearance.
- Men lacking in the looks department should venture into Bristol where only 12% of respondents thought appearance was most important. Whilst Harrow is a haven for those who fall short in the personality stakes where only a quarter of men would choose personality over all else.
Research:
ManCentral.com polled 2,879 members over a three day period. Detailed statistics & breakdowns available on request. Members who answered the surveys remained anonymous to ensure an honest and accurate response.
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